Corkonians Abroad: Korea has opened doors I had not anticipated

Where did you grow up?

I grew up in Mayfield and attended the North Mon on the northside - Mon Abu! My weekends were often spent between the northside with lads from the Mon and the southside with my cousin, Johnathon Horgan. My father is from Lower Clarke’s Road in Ballyphehane, and my mom is from Lower Cushing Road.

Currently, I live in South Korea. I moved here in 2007 after initially planning to go to Australia via America. I’ve built a home in Yongin, about 40 minutes from Seoul, where I live with my wife, Hana, and our nine-year-old daughter, Tara.

When did you move there, and was there any particular reason?

I moved to Virginia, USA, after my Junior Cert indefinitely, following my parents (Mary and Philip Neiland) receiving a green card.

After spending a year in medical school in America, my lung collapsed, which was a frightening experience that gave me the extra incentive to embrace new challenges.

In 2007, I relocated to Korea, initially intending to move to Australia. However, an opportunity to teach English in Korea presented itself, and I decided to go.

Both my brother Phil and I have inherited the travel bug from our parents. Nearly 17 years later, Korea has become home for me. I work as a school counsellor at an international school, and it has been a rewarding experience.

What is life like in your new home?

Life in Korea has been an incredible journey. I’ve developed a deep love for its food, people, and vibrant culture. When I first arrived, the country was quite different, with fewer foreign food options and a smaller expat community. Adapting meant learning about local cuisine and making the most of what was available.

Today, Korea is much more internationalised, and I appreciate the modern amenities like Costco and a variety of international cuisines. Yet, I still cherish the quieter life in Yongin, surrounded by nature and away from the city’s hustle.

Living here has allowed me to build a fulfilling life with my wife, Hana, and our wonderful daughter, Tara.

What has been the biggest challenge, and how have you tackled it?

The biggest challenge has been the distance from my family in Ireland and my parents in America, particularly as my parents are getting older and grandparents have passed away. It was especially tough during family losses and significant events that I couldn’t attend.

I’ve tackled this challenge by staying connected through regular communication and making trips home when possible, although it’s not always easy to fly back for important occasions.

How might you spend your weekends?

My weekends are a blend of outdoor adventures and community involvement. I love camping, kayaking, playing golf, and coaching high school and elementary school soccer teams. Coaching is particularly fulfilling for me, coming from a strong soccer family, the Neilands. My dad played for Cork Celtic and Cork City.

Weekends often include exploring Korea’s beautiful countryside, with trips to my brother-in-law’s apple farm about three hours away. It’s a wonderful escape from the city, even if I don’t get involved in the farming!

Tell us a bit about the culture of where you live. What are the main differences to Ireland?

In the early days, I faced challenges such as language barriers and a lack of foreign food options. I adapted by learning about local customs and navigating the food scene.

Today, Korea is much more internationalised, but the deep sense of community and rich cultural traditions remain distinctive.

Tell us about your career?

I work as a school counsellor at Cheongna Dalton School, an international school in Korea. My role focuses on safeguarding, social-emotional learning, and managing high-risk situations.

I also coach high school soccer, which allows me to combine my passion for sports with my professional responsibilities.

Your thoughts on opportunity and how different parts of the world might offer more opportunities?

Korea has opened doors I hadn’t anticipated, from career advancements to personal relationships.

Living here has exposed me to diverse cultures and experiences.

I never imagined I’d fall in love with a Korean woman when I initially planned to move to Korea, but meeting Hana after a month set the course for an amazing adventure.

The opportunities I’ve found here have far exceeded my expectations.

Are there any wider societal issues that you see in Ireland that aren’t a problem in your new home? Or vice versa?

During my last visit to Ireland, I noticed rising issues with drug addiction and homelessness. In Korea, these problems are less prevalent due to strict drug laws and a different societal approach.

This contrast highlights some of the unique challenges and solutions in each place.

What has been your most memorable moment in your new location so far?

The birth of my daughter, Tara, has been the most profound and memorable experience in Korea. Additionally, getting married in a traditional Korean ceremony was incredibly special. Seeing my brother in a pink hanbok and celebrating with my family was a touching moment.

Any special mentions to friends or family back in Cork?

Sending warm regards to all my cousins, especially Wayne Speight, who’s getting married later this year.

A special shout-out to my Uncle Liam Connery, who is the best butcher in Cork with years of generations behind the shop in Farranree — I’ll definitely be up for dinner when we’re home.

And to Uncle Gerry (Gerry All Hours), I’ll see you at the Tory Top - it’s your call!

If you were back in Cork for one day, what would you do?

I’d start with a fry at Clarke’s Road, then take a walk towards the Lough on my way into town. From there, I’d stroll through the English Market, cross the Coal Quay, head up North Main Street, and make my way up Shandon Street towards the North Mon.

After that, I’d continue out the Boreen, visit Uncle Liam, and then head over to Onslow Gardens to see Auntie Dolores Speight and Caroline Connery.

I often enjoy walking between the Northside and the Southside of Cork.

I’d finish the day with a pint in the Tory with Uncle Ger and then head down to Kent Road to see Auntie Margaret and grab a chipper in Lennoxes.

What would be the ideal day like for you?

My ideal day would also be spent with my mom, dad, my brother, and our families at Warren Strand.

I spent a lot of time in Owenahincha when I was younger and had a mobile home at Tossie’s. West Cork is one of the most beautiful places I have ever seen, and those memories are cherished deeply.

Is there anything that you especially miss about Cork?

I miss the close-knit family connections and the strong bond with my cousins’ group in Cork.