“Love is my religion. I believe in it, I worship it and it brings meaning to my life so I pursue it daily. Whether it’s to look at the sky with love, to pursue my passion for singing and music with love, to talk on the phone with family or friends with love or to fall in love. Love to me means being alive in full colour, to be awake. Love has motivated my most selfless and selfish acts, it is a feeling that makes me feel human and is my greatest weakness and strength.”
“I learnt about a loving marriage from my grandparents. They held hands while watching television, often kissed in front of us and sat in the car every Tuesday morning and picked a spot for a romantic trip for the day. They never fought! They had their roles in the family and never questioned each other. They thanked and praised each other all the time. She was shy and private, he was an outgoing salesman with an edgy sense of humour. She was a devout Catholic and he was an atheist. They respected each other in all their differences. She would pray for him and he would smile. They often told me they just wanted the other to be happy!
“My husband and I are very different too, he runs fast food restaurants and has never even taken a yoga class. Unlike my grandparents we definitely argue our differing opinions all the time but I learnt from them that different is OK. It has nothing to do with the intense love that we have and to want each other to be happy and independent is how to keep our love strong.
“My grandad died six weeks ago at almost 97, one of the biggest loves of my life. He died 14 years after my granny and his love for her never diminished, although his heart broke, it healed and his independence helped him to keep enjoying life and that’s what my wonderful granny would have wanted.”
“My parents are almost 40 years married. I’ve never once in my 32 years seen them have an argument or fight. It’s funny as I’d often ask my mom does she still fancy my dad after all these years and she would always say ‘oh ya!’ She’s in her early sixties so I always get great enjoyment when she says it. As we would say in Cork she thinks he’s a ‘fine thing’. I know he feels the same about her but he’s a typical old school Irish man who doesn’t express his feelings visually, but it’s the countless small things he does for her that makes me know he adores her just as much as she does him.
“I know one of the main reasons why I’m still single and, being honest, very happily single, is because I haven’t met any man yet who is half the man my father is. If the day comes that I meet someone that will amount to his greatness, kindness and compassion then maybe I’ll settle down. After all, they do say women marry men like their fathers. So when I see my mother and father together, that’s exactly what love means to me.”
“To me personally, love is only truly possible when we are in a healthy space ourselves, otherwise it gets tangled up with co-dependency, people-pleasing and trying to justify our worth through ‘loving acts’.
“Love is the warmth that comes when everything feels cold, it’s a person wanting what you want for you, not what they want for you. When I am coaching singles and couples and relating comes up, it’s really clear to me that we often make love responsible for our worth and value and happiness, if only I was loved the way I wanted to be, all would be OK. However, that’s just not true, love isn’t there to subside our own self-worth, it’s there to help us enjoy it.
“I see three stages in relationships emerge in my coaching sessions, one the madly in love, the total escapism of early relationships; the second level where it either deepens to knowing a person without the tinting that the initial stage gives us or it ends and we go separate ways. Then there’s the third stage, the more realistic; less escapism and more foundational love that involves tea in the morning or holding up a bowl while the other gets sick, the one where perfection isn’t required and yet respect is fostered and through that stage relationships feed the individuals within it and the individuals feed the relationship.”
“To love yourself, as clichéd as it sounds, is to radically accept yourself for who you are. One of my favourite ways to look at it is that ‘I am complete, but not finished’ and I think this is such a positive way, as women, to address our relationship with ourselves, and with our bodies.
“I think it’s OK to want to look a certain way and be the healthiest version of you but loving yourself and your body has nothing to do with having abs. We are more than abs or any single body part!
“I meet the most phenomenal women every day and their capacity for love never ceases to amaze me. They are innovators and glass ceiling shatterers and mamas and leaders. They work so hard and they love and show love — to their kids, partners, friends, crabby mother-in-laws! And what inspires me the most is the love they show themselves — they eat well (not ‘perfectly’) and move, rest and they give themselves a break. They know it’s not about being perfect or even about ‘just not hating yourself’, it’s about knowing who they are and thinking that person is someone they want to be friends with!”
“For me, love is life. Love is simply being with family and friends. I spent my 20s chasing love and happiness through material things, chasing success. After becoming a mother to Erin and Quinn in my 30s I have a completely new perspective on love. Choosing love, light and gratitude in your everyday decisions and relationships, makes for a much warmer and happier life.
“I think the world right now could do with a lot more love. And while I can’t change the world I can start with my own little patch and use loving intentions everyday. Give me time with family and friends any day over material things. That’s my loving place and pure happiness to me.”
“Love comes into our lives in many different ways but today, and as the proud founder of My Little Mummy Blog, I am going to try and put into words the feeling of love you feel as a Mum.
The love you feel for a child is the strongest emotion I could ever have imagined. It overpowers every other feeling I have ever had for anyone or anything, ever before. It hits you deep down into your core and that for me was instant, from the moment you get that positive pregnancy test result.
“Anyone or anything else, including yourself, becomes secondary from that moment onwards. You look into your child’s eyes and you feel warmth, you feel pride and you feel fear. You also feel like you are the luckiest person in the whole universe that you are their Mummy and they are your baby, for now and always and no-one can ever take that away from you.
“In summary, the love you feel as a Mum is the greatest blessing you will ever receive.”
“The love of my life — there’s always one — a Nordic farmer, gave me a book about love when I was 19. It was a seminal work in the ’50s by Erich Fromm,. It has never let me down. In the book, Fromm describes five types of love. They are all deserving. There is brotherly love, parental love, erotic love, self-love and the love of God. Now that I am a lot older it still is good for me. Of course, in the process of maturing I hadn’t a clue but through my experience of living in India, a very spiritual country with admittedly a lot of social problems that contravene the essence of love, I came to know that love has some kind of eternal essence which frequently eludes us when we are doing our daily stuff like what vegetables are on special offer in Lidl today! But I came to know about real love through the Sufi poets, the mystical tradition of Islam, and the mystical songs of Nusrat Fateh Ali Khan which I spoke about on RTÉ Radio 1 on Christmas morning 2017.
“And from all that self-enquiry and following different yatras (Sanskrit for ‘journeys’) in my pursuit of love, I have come to this conclusion: that love is pure, love sustains us when we fall down, love makes us feel warmer in the morning when we wake up. It’s worth a go!”